How to Cope when you are Triggered by your Teen!

When we can’t avoid being triggered by our teen, it’s important we have some strategies in place for when the inevitable sometimes happens. Here are some tips that might help in the heat of the moment.

1. Identify your triggers:

Take time to understand what situations or behaviours trigger strong emotions in you. Self-awareness is the first step in managing your reactions.

2. Practice mindfulness:

Mindfulness techniques, like deep breathing or meditation, can help you stay calm and centered when faced with triggers.

3. Take a break:

If someone triggers you, it’s okay to step away from the situation. Give yourself some space to cool down and collect your thoughts.

4. Communicate assertively:

Express your feelings and boundaries calmly and assertively. Use “I” statements to share how you feel without blaming the other person.

5. Develop coping strategies:

Find healthy ways to cope with stress, such as exercise, journaling, or creative outlets like art or music.

6. Set boundaries:

Establish clear boundaries with people who frequently trigger you. Let them know what behaviour makes you uncomfortable.

7. Avoidance when necessary:

If a situation or person consistently triggers you and it’s not essential to your well-being, consider limiting your exposure to them.

8. Build resilience:

Focus on developing your emotional resilience over time. This can help you become better equipped to handle triggering situations.

9. Seek professional help:

If you find it challenging to cope with triggers on your own, consider talking to a therapist or counsellor who can provide guidance and support.

Remember that coping with triggers is a skill that takes time to develop. Be patient with yourself as you learn to manage your reactions in healthier ways.